During our painful 10 month separation in 2010, Christine and I purposely chose to work individually on ourselves and ultimately self-actualize as much as possible to achieve Divine Intimacy with Our Lord.
Our goal was to replicate those miraculous 6 weeks that we enjoyed at the end of 2009 ~ with our feet not touching the ground.
Most certainly not consciously planning to ~ yet thanks through the inspiration of Ruach Hakodesh (Holy Spirit in Hebrew), we chose when we met for the very 1st time, to tell each other as they say in United States' courts “the whole truth and nothing but the truth ~ so help me God.”
And that we did ~ gently rallying as if before a ping-pong match, giving up the need of serving first to serve each other.
When we mindfully and purposefully choose to put the needs of ourpartner before our own, then we can truthfully say that we are in the right relationship.
Christine was previously married for 34 years and became a widow.
I was also married 34 years ~ 5 years the first time @ the ripe ol' age of 19; and then 29 years during the 2nd matrimony withboth ending in divorce.
Both of us committing to a totally fresh start,a key commencement couplehood component was telling each other all of our most intimate TRUTHS.
Agreeing that for our new relationship to last the rest of our lives, we had to respectand forgive each other’s pasts; as well as honoring each other’s inherent familystructures.
The TRUTH setting us free, we both agreed that lies of omission are exactly that ~ lies.
Consciously choosing to completely clean out our closets, it was a very un-encumbering experience that continues to this day 11 years later.
And because in deciding to enjoy a mutual empty canvas to create on, we chose to let each other be 100% free and paint on any part, in whatever manner we individually chose to.
Whether it is Dali-like, Michelangelo inspired or abstract Picasso style, we enjoy an absolute blessing in expressing ourselves exactly aswe personally desire.
Each partner has the right within our couplehood covenant of EQUALITY ~ to be exactly who they really are and to truly feelsafe and free about it; as well as following their own individual path within our Divine Intimacy relationship.
Similar to the zebras below ~ we always watch each other's backs!