As The Aborigines taught us, “we should only speak The Truth from behind our eyes”.
It is critical that when challenging situations occur ~ and they will occur, that we sit down directly across from each other in a mutually agreed-to quiet place, with no cell phones, televisions, little kids, friends or radios to distract us.
Avoiding finger-pointing “you” statements should be replaced by “whenever this happens I feel this way.”
Thus the partner does not feel cornered and realizes that they do not have to protect themselves.
Always feeling 100% safe in a relationship creates heaven on earth!
Constantly handing out Monopoly-like “Get Out Of Jail Cards”, keeps the relationship flowing and unhindered by perceived wounds.
It makes a huge difference when the partner feels safe in doing what they feel is best, rather than being encapsulated with blame, shame and guilt.
Rough patches and mountains to climb are inherent in all couplehoods.
Graced that God is in the VERY middle holding each of our hands, when we turn to Him and Him only, we will receive the Divine help that we need to overcome anything and everything.
When we agree and recognize that many blessings are wrapped in obstacles, then we should ask for Christ Yeshua’s Calvaric strength in unwrapping the seemingly uncomfortable deterrent and then for Ruach Hakodesh’s (Holy Spirit in Hebrew) wisdom to fully understand the blessing.
“Letting go and letting God” is the greatest comfort of all.
Sure, goals are important ~ especially in a shared relationship, but living a life of no expectations which I call Divine Allowance and heartfeltly acknowledging that “this is the day that the Lord has made” are heavenly treasures.