The greater the offense, the harder it is to forgive ~ but you must.
Whatever you refuse to forgive and let go of, you carry with you. And it will be like the anchor of The Titanic around your neck.
Has someone abused you, cheated on you, lied about you, fired you, or otherwise mistreated you?
Have you failed yourself? Are you asking, "How can I get beyond my past mistakes and become successful again?"
Whatever your particular hurt, the solution isn’t feeding it or denying it. You have to forgive and let it go, or you will continue to hurt yourself.
Groucho Marx said that choosing not to forgive somebody is like eating poison and expecting the other person to die.
In order to move forward, you have to "let go + let God" and be at peace with the past ~ leaving it FOREVER in the rear view mirror.
If we chose not to, then we are always terribly stuck in the past ~ not enjoying the gift from God called THE PRESENT.
Paul could easily have allowed the memory of the Christians he put to death before meeting Christ to destroy him and rob him of his destiny. But he refused to do it.
Instead he wrote:
"Dear brothers and sisters, I am still not all that I should be, but I am bringing all my energies to bear on forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead.
I strain to reach the end of the race and receive the prize for which God is calling us up to heaven because of what Christ Yeshua did for us".
"If you hold anything against anyone ~ forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive your sins."
Bottom__________forgive and move on.
But also most importantly ~ forgive yourself!
Christ Yeshua advocated for us while horrifically agonizing on the cross:
"Father forgive them for they do not know what they do."