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Updated: Apr 12, 2022

After we have chosen to SELF ACTUALIZE ~ to be who we really, really are and heal ourselves, the next blessing is to PURIFY our relationships.

Having the right relationships will help you to soar in life; they’re like the wind beneath your wings.

But the wrong relationships will drag you down; they’re like a ball and chain around your feet.

To know which relationships are good for you and which are not, here are three guidelines:

1) When a relationship is not working, acknowledge it. Sometimes you must cut your losses.

The old saying goes, "When you’re in a hole, stop digging!"

Accept the fact that sometimes your efforts are not enough and that you can’t help everyone.

Releasing someone doesn’t mean they will never get better; it just means that God is more qualified to help them than you are.

2) There is a HUGE difference between helping someone and carrying them.

This is particularly so when you’re dealing with a person who always turns to you for help and tries to make you feel guilty when you’re "not there" for them.

Don’t try to be someone’s GOD ~ HE IS THE ONE AND ONLY.

Your constant help may actually be a hindrance ~ you have become a crutch and an enabler.

Step back and let them learn to walk on their own!

3) Don’t allow your fear of criticism to restrain your common sense.

Here is a fact of life that you must learn to live with:

not everyone will be pleased with you!

The truth can hurt and often alienate, but it’s still the TRUTH and it will set YOU FREE.

There are times when you must "tell it like it is" and accept the consequences and disapproval.

The only way to avoid criticism is to always say what everyone desires to hear, and put on a fake mask ~which is equal to living a lie in any and all relationships.

And the most important relationship that we MUST PURIFY is that with Christ Jesus!

"In your hearts revere Christ as Lord.

Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have.

But do this with gentleness and respect."

"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace.

In this world you will have trouble.

But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

"We also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance ~ character; and character ~ hope."

"Remain in Me, and I in you."

"Just as the branch cannot bear fruit of itself but must remain in the vine, so neither can you unless you remain in Me."

"Therefore, since we receive a kingdom which cannot be shaken, let us show gratitude, and offer to God pleasing service and acceptable worship with reverence and awe."